Modern parents face one very dangerous and, unfortunately, quite frequent problem over time. Kids don’t want to read books. Conviction, blackmail, threats, bribery can’t handle this problem. The only thing that is an effective method – interest, desire of the child to read a book himself or herself.
An example reading parents means less to a child than reading older brothers, sisters or friends, so the advice of some psychologists, a personal example to motivate the child, is ineffective. That’s where the first problem lies.
Children of preschool age like it very much when they read books, try to read themselves. The child’s brain is ready to accept huge material. Information received from parents, nannies, especially older siblings, is easily assimilated. Therefore, as a rule, there are no problems at preschool age. But when reading becomes a “job”, a duty – there is a desire to throw off this “burden”. In the child’s vocabulary there are phrases: “Read again!?”, “Well, how much can I!?”, “I don’t want to!”, “You read, I’ll listen. You’re good at reading” or “I don’t know what I’m reading.” And pay attention, the child is telling the truth. He does not want to, at least because there are a lot of more interesting and close to heart activities: computer games, cartoons, demonstration of races “Formula 1” on TV, etc., etc. This is the second problem. So, what’s it gonna be?
Don’t, even with a little kid, bark. Children from childhood should feel like “adults” and understand that they also have responsibilities on their shoulders. And reading is a matter to be dealt with responsibly. Reading, learning, perception of new, useful information – their work.
Be sure to encourage the child. Every time a child wants to listen to a book and later read it, it should be encouraged. He must understand that reading is a necessary and “profitable” activity. But to encourage – does not mean to bribe and, moreover, let’s not allow blackmail: “you will read, you will get a candy (the opportunity to sit at the computer, watch cartoons, play football).
A child is always proud to have mastered his first “adult” big book. The day he finishes reading it can be celebrated as a family holiday – “The Day of the First Book”. And the gift for this day should always be a book. You can write down and keep a record of the books you have read, hold a competition, who in the family will read more books. This is a good motivation for the child, he will try to beat the parents, read more of them.
Audiobooks can be used for teenage children. Most of them listen to music. Why not invite them to listen to the book? Many students will agree. Because listening to the same “War and Peace”, “Crime and Punishment” and so on, they will find it much easier than reading. It is a very effective method to turn on the audiobook and listen through the speakers to the parent himself while the teenager is at home. A teenager will have to hear what a parent listens to.
There are many methods to entice a child to read, each parent, knowing the nature and temperament of his child, he chooses the method that will be most effective. The only thing not to forget is that children need attention and time. Don’t forget to learn to be a parent. Involve children and, importantly, improve yourself. Your children will notice and take it into account. Of course, there will be problems, there will be difficulties. The problem of “fathers and children” is not going anywhere, but with an erudite, readable and thinking child, you will overcome all the difficulties that will stand in your way.