It was in 1993. My daughter was in second grade. She once gave a secret thought to her roommate at the desk:
- Why do you even have to go to class? It’s only a test score. Coming at them, that’s all.
- You’re what? We have to!
- What for?
- …Teachers to listen…
My daughter never had any conflicts, but to get up every day in the morning and go study…
I wasn’t aware of that reasoning. I had mine. I thought Anechka would be born soon, so I could pick up the high school.
I had a very negative attitude towards post-Soviet education.
We lived in the provincial N. I was very surprised that before us at the next school in the 8th grade, my parents took my son to family education. My dad taught me. The headmaster of that school proudly reported that the boy returned a year later: “It was hard.” The boy pulled it out, gave it all up well, but he didn’t want it anymore.
Trap Stone One
What happened to the first boy at family training in our N. is the first pitfall. We ran into him in fifth grade. This is the desire of teachers to interrogate (not to ask!) a non-standard student on all issues. No pupil answers on all topics in all subjects. Only those in family training.
I strongly felt the desire of teachers to prove that the system they serve is better. So that others don’t get hurt. We found a way out: another school.
Choose the form of education: externship. Fewer will impose demands.
Mother-in-law has worked as a teacher all her life. The students loved her. She didn’t take our idea of home schooling very well. It’s lucky we lived in different cities.
One day she came for 2 days and then it turned out that she had no time to go to school! I wanted to talk to the class teacher so they could ask the girl to study at home.
It was a failed betrayal. Sticks in the wheels can be inserted by anyone who does not feel sorry for a child. These people have always been on the road. But my own grandmother…
My parents didn’t agree with our decision either. However, Grandpa wrote to his granddaughter: “Don’t look that your mother and I disagree. Listen to your mother, no one loves you more than her.”
Unwelievers are the second pitfall. Inevitable. It’s the worst thing when it’s relatives.
The third pitfall
Natasha finished 10th and 11th grade in one year. I wanted to drop out of school three times. Overwork. Hold on to her thinking of those who would also study externally after her. She knew that she was paving the way for many…
Overloading is the worst thing about education that I know. Something dies in a man, something is lost forever. The pioneering spirit helped here, she held out. And the youngest daughter broke down after 9th grade. I finished well, but I didn’t want to study anymore, only a six-month course.
At the age of 16 Anya went to work as a designer in a printing house, successfully working at one place for 2.5 years. Apparently, she really needs nine classes. But she’d better make such decisions for other reasons.
The eldest has been working since I was 14. Overloading has become a norm of life for her, she’s a workaholic. I’m not happy about it, I see the roots in the habit of constant self-education.
What didn’t happen was a conflict with your peers. Huge plus home schooling.
In the end, we were very lucky to have been treated in a friendly manner. After us, the children of our friends study there too. The principal believes that the best education is self-education. Such a leader is a real find! That’s what you’re looking for. The school is the principal, believe my experience.
Indeed, how can we call poor-quality education of the same Natasha, who has her own design studio (printing and web development).
The main pitfall of home schooling is in the family
When the comrades do not agree… Our friends have an older boy who has been successfully studying externally since sixth grade. But every time the mother takes a test, she panics that her son knows nothing. It turns into a husband’s sawing. It’s a problem that needs to be solved in advance. Only a firm belief, only a categorical rejection of the school by both parents will provide your children with a normal path of externship.
Our other acquaintances used to send their children to school, then take them away. At this stage, it’s been taken. Such hardness is not fatal, but, to put it mildly, not useful.
And another nuance arises in the family: parents may forget to let their children learn in the morning. Del’s enough. Well, don’t forget…
So, only a solid foundation is good for construction. It’s the same with home schooling. Doubtful? Either establish yourself, or do what everyone else does.